The five wounds

Here is an extract from an article written by Lise Bourbeau. You can find this article in full on the Ecoute Ton Corps school website as well as many other free or paid resources.

“Here is a quick description of these five wounds, with their descriptive mask, in order to quickly recognize them, both in attitude, behavior and physical appearance. The more aspects of this description you see yourself in, the greater the hurt. For example, if the whole body meets the description, the injury is much bigger than if only part of your body meets it. 

Awakening of the wound 
from conception until the age of one year. Aroused by same-sex parent. Didn't feel welcomed, accepted. This injury is therefore experienced in life with people of the same sex. 

Mask : fleeing. 

Attitude and behavior of the absconder
He believes he has no right to exist. Wonder what he's doing on this planet. The wearer of this mask considers himself worthless and worthless. He easily cuts himself off from the outside world by fleeing into his world. He also finds many means of escape (astral, sleep, drugs, alcohol, etc.). One way to cut himself off from the physical world is to become interested in everything mental and intellectual. Isolates himself and even if in the presence of others, feels alone, because he takes up so little space that he becomes almost invisible to others. He is often an obsessive perfectionist in certain areas. He creates an unattainable ideal for himself. Panicks easily following scenarios that he is very skilled at constructing. 

Physical body
small, narrow, thin body. The upper body contracted, folded on itself. Smaller or missing body parts, example: no butt. Asymmetrical body parts. The ring around the eyes which gives the impression of a mask around the eyes. Tendency to skin problems. Little eyes. Low, dead voice. 

Awakening of the wound 
between birth and the age of three. Aroused by the parent of the opposite sex. Did not feel supported and above all lacked emotional nourishment. This wound is therefore experienced in life with people of the opposite sex. 

Mask : addicted. 

Attitude and behavior of the addict
he seeks attention, support and above all the support of those around him at all costs. The addicted mask wearer can even become a victim and often sick just for attention. He has difficulty functioning alone. Difficulty standing up straight, leaning on other people or something. Great affinity as an actor, to be the star in a meeting. Regularly makes requests, not out of need, but mainly to get attention. As I get older, I become more and more anxious about being alone. 

Physical body 
a long thin body, without tone. Underdeveloped muscular system. Dropped shoulders. Curved back. Parts of the body that are drooping or flabby or located lower than the norm, for example: low buttocks. Large, sad or drooping eyes. Child's voice or plaintive voice. 

Awakening of the wound 
between the ages of one and three years. Awake with the parent who repressed all forms of physical pleasure. Maybe one or both parents. Felt restricted in his freedom to experience physical pleasure. 

Mask : masochistic. 

Attitude and behavior of the masochist
a very sensual person who enjoys the pleasures associated with the senses, but who represses them for fear of going overboard, losing control and being ashamed. Does everything not to be free, so becomes very helpful and takes care of the needs of those close to him before his own. Often disgusted with herself, she calls herself heartless, dirty, unworthy. Often rewards herself with food, giving her reason to be disgusted with herself. Attracts public situations to be humiliated. 

Physical body
a body made of curves, round face, round arms, round body, etc. Generally, excess weight. Short size. Clothing often too tight. The round, open, naive eyes of a child. Soft, honeyed voice. 

Awakening of the wound 
between the ages of two and four. Awake with the parent of the opposite sex. Felt betrayed, manipulated, or lied to. His expectations not met by this parent. Lost confidence. This wound is therefore experienced in life with people of the opposite sex. 

Mask : controlling. 

Attitude and behavior of the controller
having a strong personality, he likes to control others so that they meet his expectations. Takes up a lot of space in a group. Seeks to be special and important. Intolerant and impatient with slow people. Tries to impose his point of view at all costs. Very seductive and manipulative. Skeptical with others, afraid of being seduced. Difficulty engaging with people of the opposite sex. Does not trust easily. Cannot tolerate being lied to, but often lies to others. Specialist in blaming others, does not take responsibility, but wants everyone to believe he is very responsible. 

Physical body 
in men, shoulders wider than the hips. Exhibits strength and power in the upper body. In women, the strength is more in the pelvis and the hips are wider and stronger than the shoulders. Strength in the buttocks, thighs, legs. Large eyes with intense and seductive gaze. Loud voice. 

Awakening of the wound
between the ages of four and six. Awake with same-sex parent. Felt blocked in developing his individuality. Suffered from the coldness and insensitivity of this parent. This injury is therefore experienced in life with people of the same sex. 

Mask : rigid. 

Attitude and behavior of the rigid
very perfectionist, he wants to live in a perfect world. So he cut himself off from his sensitivity so as not to feel the imperfections. Seems an eternal optimist even if nothing is going well. Rarely admits to experiencing problems, fatigue or even physical discomfort. Does not respect his limits, because he does not feel them. Easily controlled (weight, food, anger, etc.) Comes across as cold and insensitive. Believes he is appreciated for what he does and not for what he is. Very demanding of himself. 

Physical body 
a well-proportioned, straight, rigid body or very stiff, rigid body parts. A stiff neck with neck nerves often sticking out. Jaw clenched. Rigid, jerky movements. Dresses tight to show off his small size and often in black to cut off his feelings. Very neat appearance and seems sexy but not sensual. Flat stomach that he strives to fit. Round and rounded buttocks. Clear complexion. Piercing eyes with direct, bright and lively gaze. Dry voice. »